see you later

 For my last blog I've decided to compress everything I've learned in the class and share my most important take aways from this semester. First, I've enjoyed being in this class. I've agreed with some things and I've disagreed with a lot. But here's some things that I did learn and did agree with. 

A theory is an explanation of something. It is a set of logically related proposals to explain how something happens or works. Different types of theories are: systems theory, exchange theory, symbolic interaction theory, conflict theory, etc. All of them do different things to theorize others. 

Culture is a huge part of families and what makes a family a family. All families are different and so many things are more important to some families than other families. Some families mesh cultures when two people from different backgrounds get married. 

  Gender does matter in the sense that we are born to do different things. Female and Males brains are different. They think differently and work differently for different reasons. Girls are better at observing details and remembering little things where guys are a lot better at remembering directions and how to get somewhere.

Dating is important. Dating can tell you a lot about yourself and who you are as a person and what you need/ want in a relationship. It can also show you how the person you are going on dates with how they respond to certain situations, their interests, and red flags. 

Communicate lots! Before, you get married, during your marriage, and especially when you start having kids. Couples are getting divorced here and there all the time because of the silly little things and it is so sad. When problems arise in relationships people tend to stay silent for a number of reasons and that just hurts the relationship even more. 

Sex in relationships is important. Rather, healthy sex in relationships is important. Being comfortable with your body in front of your partner is vital to having a good sex life. Physical touch helps build the whole marriage and it is needed for that and not only for sex. Agency and consent is HUGE. Just because you are married doesn’t mean you can do whatever, whenever you want. 

Stress is a natural emotion that everyone goes through on a daily basis. A huge cause of stress is families. There can be so many reasons for this cause of stress. Parents making "dumb rules"and kids not wanting to follow them, all the way to kids or parents being drug addicts and not able to provide for serious mental health issues within family members. 

 For problem solving you should: 1. Never use sex to solve problems. 2. Resist the silent treatment. This does nothing but make things worse. 3. Use humor and joke with each other for some comic relief. 4. Always go for closure. Never leave without feeling okay with the conversation. 

You can survive off of one income. It’s all about budgeting.  Before getting married it is so important to sit down and make a budget for everything and figure out all of your expenses on a monthly basis and set boundaries for money spending. It can prevent so many problems in the future and help to avoid difficult conversations when one spouse purchases something that is not quite in the budget. 

Everyone has different parenting styles and that's okay. It is most important to love your kids, and support them in their dreams and provide for them. To provide for them and let them chase their dreams. I was think it is important to not raise wusses. And that is just my opinion. But when they are young and fall to not just run up and freak out cause thats when they will start to cry and become too sensitive.